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    Default MY HUMBLE APOLOGIES TO THIS FORUM...

    Hello,
    I would like to offer my sincere apologies to this forum. I am very sorry for my negative attitude in the last week.

    Please accept my sincere apologies.

    I have suffered many personal problems over the past few months which seem to have come to a head. These issues include:-
    1) my 16 year old son dealing in weed
    2) death of my 49 year old best friend
    3) death of my grandmother
    4) almost losing a 0.71ct diamond down the drain
    5) shacky employment prospects as my project is ending
    6) being ripped off on ebay for 770 GBP for a Louis Vuitton Cotteville
    7) Paypal dramas with seeking a AU$59- refund for a fake pair of Cartier glasses
    8) Poor/crappy service from LV

    Whilst the above events do not justify my attitude - I wish to present all my cards so you can see the surrounding issues.

    Sincere Apologies.

    PS - Thank you so much for putting up with me..... and also a big thanks for all the private messages of support.

    PPS - I really love this forum. You people are good friends.

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    Default Re: MY HUMBLE APOLOGIES TO THIS FORUM...

    I need to be grateful for many positives, including:-

    1) having Loving wife (who is smart, beautiful and kind to me)
    2) beautiful Louis Vuitton Collection (especially my 5 briefcases, hard case items)
    3) lovely luxury watch collection
    4) lovely jewellery collection
    5) being young enough (i am 36) to enjoy the above
    6) having good friends on this forum
    7) being "manly enough" not to get angry when snobby LV staff look down on me

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    It sounds to me like you've been through a lot lately....so I hope you are able to get in a better mindset soon so you can enjoy all your gorgeous things!

    But if I may be so bold to ask.....
    I know I'm new to this forum....

    You have many nice things, but is it possible that you are purchasing these things because you are depressed? I think most of us have been there, sometimes we try to fill up how we feel with material things when there's a deeper issue going on....as I said it sounds like you've been through a lot so I was just wondering....

    I mean no disrespect or anything
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    Default Re: MY HUMBLE APOLOGIES TO THIS FORUM...

    Sorry to hear that you have had such a rough time lately.

    By your own admission you have a collection of LV bags, jewelry, luxury watches and more. All that must have cost you buckets of money...but in the end it was all just for you.

    Maybe you could take a step out and do something good for someone else. I believe in Karma and that what you do will come back to you eventually. So I suggest you volunteer in a soup kitchen, your local hospital, old age home or any other place. Doing something for another person without expecting anything in return is a wonderful thing. I am by no means a saint, so sorry if I sound preachy, BUT i have whenever possible, financially or with my time helped others less fortunate then myself. Seeing a genuine smile of thanks and appreciation can fill with more contentment than you can even imagine.....Give it a try.

    Sorry for the lecture , but i think you need to calm down and refocus on your life...this may help.
    Good Luck!

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    Default Re: MY HUMBLE APOLOGIES TO THIS FORUM...

    SORRY I DON'T BELIEVE IN KARMA...... KARMA IS JUST A BULL**** THING TO STOP SOCIETY GOING INTO ANACHRY.....

    If Karma was true why did my mother die at 37 years old.... when I was 15 and I had a 12 month old sister..... My mother died of breast cancer.......

    WHAT DID SHE DO WRONG? WHAT DID A 15 YEAR OLD DO TO DESERVE THE LOSS OF MY MOTHER FROM BREAST CANCER.....

    If Karma were true - Jesus would owe me $20,000,000- for the insult,.......
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    We do many things to help people.....

    1) I donate all our baby items to a charity for ladies in need.
    2) my wife works in a hospice for children (again - KARMA is bull**** - what did these kids do wrong?)
    3) we try and help the patients at my wife's hospice..... bought a golf set for a patient who is end of life.... hired some games for another end of life patient to enjoy - WE PAID FOR THIS (No reimbursement, no brownie points or anything like that)..... just the silent joy of making a child's life fun in the end of life phase.
    4) constantly giving items away to needy people.... for free
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    It seems like you've had to experience a lot of crappy things in the past few months. You will get through it, and that's what we're here for, you to vent and get out those feelings. It's great all the things that you and your family do to help people. I think that can help make you feel better when you're down. Just keep looking forward and everything will turn out for the best hopefully!


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    I know that things have been rough for you Archie. It's pretty easy to get overwhelmed when one bad thing is followed by another. And no matter how many times you've experienced loved ones dying, it never gets easier to deal with it.

    My mom died a few months ago after battling a long illness. I now have to care for my younger brother while working and going to school full-time (she died when I was 19, I'm 20 now). Trust me when I say that I was crabby (and that's an understatement!) for awhile. I did lash out on those around me. A couple months ago I began seeing a therapist and EVERYTHING has changed. I feel less overwhelmed, better prepared to handle things, and have learned a lot from her. It is great to talk to a neutral third party.

    I do suggest you talk to a therapist. Everyone needs to talk to someone and therapists can give a lot of insight that you may not have considered before. You don't have to do it long term; a couple sessions may be all you need. Family counseling might be a good idea too.

    I hope things start to turn around for you. Take care.

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    Default Re: MY HUMBLE APOLOGIES TO THIS FORUM...

    My mother did not die recently.... she died when I was 15. I am now 36 years old.

    She died in 1988.

    I am just saying KARMA is bull****...... WHAT WRONG DID A 15 YEAR OLD DO TO DESERVE THIS FATE?
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    I think the therapist idea is a good one. You obviously have a lot of pent up anger and sadness regarding everything in your life and you need to work through it.
    You may have lost your mother and I'm sorry for that. But think about what your children are going through, dealing with all of your baggage. You say your son is smoking weed. Why? These are things that need to be looked at. Why is he acting out like this? Why is he choosing the friends that are getting him into this lifestyle? What can you do as a parent to give him boundaries and let his know this is unaccpetable behavior? How can you change yourself and your parenting skills so that he knows he can count on you and doesn't turn to undesirable friends?
    You should embrace that fact that you didn't lose the ring. You should embrace the fact that your grandma had the years on earth that she did and is now looking down on you and your family with love. You need to embrace all those positive things and stop dwelling on the negative, stop living in the past. I'm sorry your mom died. I can't imagine losing mine at such a young age. But I know that there is a lesson in that (you just haven't figured it out yet). And I know that you were lucky to have had 15 years with her. No one knows why bad things happen to good people. After losing several loved ones in a short period of time, I had the option to either get angry and turn away from God (which I did for a while). And then I came back because I couldn't get through it alone. I was so angry, so bitter. It consumed my life and affected how I acted towards others.
    I had to hand it over to heal, to begin to move on. And I did.
    As a Christian, I handed it over to God. But there are so many ways that you can begin to move on. And therapy is one way. A big way.


    Please note: I or TBF am in no way promoting Christianity or religion to anyone. I am simply relaying my story and how I was able to deal and move on.
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    Default Re: MY HUMBLE APOLOGIES TO THIS FORUM...

    Quote Originally Posted by archie42 View Post
    I am just saying KARMA is bull****...... WHAT WRONG DID A 15 YEAR OLD DO TO DESERVE THIS FATE?

    Sometimes it not always about you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by archie42 View Post
    My mother did not die recently.... she died when I was 15. I am now 36 years old.

    She died in 1988.

    I am just saying KARMA is bull****...... WHAT WRONG DID A 15 YEAR OLD DO TO DESERVE THIS FATE?
    I know your mom did not die recently; I was simply telling you my story and how therapy helped me.

    I agree with Maeveyblube : you need to look at the positive of each situation. There is always a positive. And I still stand by my therapy suggestion- it can help in so many ways.

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    Quote Originally Posted by archie42 View Post
    We do many things to help people.....

    1) I donate all our baby items to a charity for ladies in need.
    2) my wife works in a hospice for children (again - KARMA is bullshit - what did these kids do wrong?)
    3) we try and help the patients at my wife's hospice..... bought a golf set for a patient who is end of life.... hired some games for another end of life patient to enjoy - WE PAID FOR THIS (No reimbursement, no brownie points or anything like that)..... just the silent joy of making a child's life fun in the end of life phase.
    4) constantly giving items away to needy people.... for free
    Hey, really sorry to hear about your loss and all the problems in your life. I think it's terrific that you counted your blessings too. You have tons of things to celebrate for - your wife, your son, and you. The fact that you are healthy and alive and can enjoy many, many, wonderful things life will give you.

    Life is unfair, I must admit. It's easy for me to say, but yeah, focus on the positive and see how each challenge and setback only makes you stronger, makes you more ready to take on other challenges in life.

    Just my personal opinion: I think you may need a change in perspective. I used to very angry myself (and to some extent, still am) because of many years of hurt and feeling unworthy. These negative experiences and emotions fester inside me, and if I had let it consume me, I would be unable to see all the blessings life has also given me.

    Another thing on Karma - Karma also means you are repaying what you have owed from your past life in this present life. Karma is a way of saying the universe is always fair and just. It is always on time and it always remembers. It not only means that the person who have done you wrong will receive his or her punishment in due time, it also means you have karmic debts to pay and you have to pay them in this life. If you see karma as a way of explaining things, as a perspective, it might help you rationalize your problems and understand your situation better. It does not in any way means lack of agency though.

    Another thing that bothers me somewhat. I've been following your post and feel really sorry for you that you have been cheated. I too am a victim of a scam and was filled with rage and self-blame when it happened to me. I'm over it now... and learned from my mistake, however costly that was.

    But anyways, I feel that you place way too much emphasis on material goods and money.

    You gave a list of things to thank for and some of it included owning luxury items and watches etc. I'm glad that you are also thankful for your wife and for your youth. But material things do not make up who you are. How you treat others and how you live your life, make you who you really are. Your dreams, your memories, your relationships.

    When you gave a list of things that you have helped others with, you emphasized a lot on the word "free" and on buying things for people.

    Owning things make us happy but it only for a short period of time. Buying things for people do not touch them or warm their hearts in a way doing things for them or spending quality time for them can do. The best gifts I've received are not expensive ones, but are those that are most thoughtful and touching.

    I do not know you but I'm glad that you understand that relationships are important (your best friend, your grandma, your mother, your son) too, which is very good!

    Again, when you help others, dont expect them to repay you or that life will be suddenly good to you. Sometimes, life isnt fair at all. But, help others because it is the right thing to do and because it makes you happy seeing others happy. And sometimes the concept of 'karma', if understood correctly, can help you transcend the anger you feel inside.

    I wish you all the luck!
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    ^^ Good post.

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    Default Re: MY HUMBLE APOLOGIES TO THIS FORUM...

    Maeveyblue's post above

    Oh my goodness I totally agree with your post! I couldnt have said that better myself!


    Quite happy and content with H for now!

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