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    A friend of mine lost her 5 year old today. He wasn't feeling well, and she took him to the hospital, and he had surgery and he passed away. I don't have children, but this still hits me pretty hard... I can't imagine what she's going through... At school, we're trying to think of something to do for her. We are definitely taking donations to help with the funeral, but do you guys have any suggestions for other things to do to help her through this?

    I hope none of you girls have ever had to go through this, and never have to go through this... I just haven't had many people close to me pass away, so I dont know what to do for her...

    Any help is appreciated. Thanks in advance...

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    i think she will needs companion. I'm very bad at consoling others but i think, no matter how bad or how sad you feel for her, it wont helps the situation.

    And don't keep telling her that you are worry about her etc... because i think that would burden her, she is already sad enough, don't make her carry yours.

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    OMG!! I can't imagine what she is going through and I hope I never have to!!

    Lots of hugs to you and your dear friend!:hug: All I can say is for you to be there for her she will have so many emotions right now and in the future.
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    I can't imagine.

    She needs friends. One with a shoulder to cry on, a smile and personality to make her laugh and get her through this. Losing a child has to be the most horrible thing anyone can go through.
    Maybe have people make up meals for her, help clean the house, run errands, etc... Give her time to mourn and not have to worry about the little things.
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    I would say to just try being there for her and to let her know that you care, but don't push her to open up about everything right away. She's likely to be going through a lot of emotions right now, so she may not want to talk at all. And like Maevey said, maybe have people offer to help out with little everyday things.

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    I am so sorry, that must be tough for her!


    All ya can do is be there for her and do whatever you can possible.

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    This is terrible news. My heart goes out to your friend and her family. :hug:

    I think the idea of collecting money for funeral expenses is a good idea. My suggestion would just be to keep her occupied and busy. When people are by themselves they tend to go over what happened in their heads over and over. Just spend time with her, even if it means crying with her or sitting on the couch not saying much.

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    That is so sad. I'm so sorry for your friend. I agree with the other girls. Helping her by being there for her, and making sure she's not alone too often.

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    Oh Wow. I dont know what to say. I guess I would haveta agree with what everyone said above. Just be there for her and let her know that she can count on you for whatever it may be.

    This is really sad news. Im speechless.

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    This is so sad. It really makes you think about life, and to love the people who are in yours. My heart definitely goes out to her.

    Just be there for her in any way you can. I would suggest making her dinners so that she has food to eat. She isn't going to want to cook... or probably eat... but if she does then she will have things already made and she will just have to heat it up.

    In all honesty, there really isn't anything you can do to make things better for her, and time will be the only thing that is going to help. Just be her friend, and she will be thankful that you care enough to do whatever it takes to help her in this terrible time.
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    Wow, I'm so sorry.
    I agree with everyone.. just be there for her..make sure she eats..:hug:

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    Oh no, how very awful. I am so sorry for your friend. I cannot imagine what losing a child would feel like and I don't want to know.

    Like everyone says, just be there for her. Help her to do the little things around the house - preparing food, cleaning. Just listen when she needs to talk. There is nothing you could say to make her feel better. I lost my mum two years ago and I couldn't understand how life just went on around me when I didn't feel like being a part of it. My DS was only 10 weeks old at the time and I was thankful my mother in law was around to help out cause I didn't have the inclination or strength to do anything.

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    What a tragedy, I'm so sorry your friend is going through this. It's OK to not know what to say or do. She may want to talk about it, but she may not. She may want to talk about everything else but that. By being a thoughtful friend, you are doing so much to help her through this. Hugs to both of you.

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    During such a devastating time as your friend is going through, all you can do is be the best friend possible. Comfort her by being her shoulder to cry on and give her many many hugs... My thoughts and prayers go out to her family.

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    Thank yall for everything... my aunt passed away today so I dont know what to do about anything... But I appreciate everything..

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