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    People have so many ways in which they handle things; there's such variety of beliefs. That's what makes it interesting...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maeveyblue View Post
    Wow.
    I don't know what to say. That would be unacceptable to me. A marriage is a union, a combining, of two people, of two souls. The whole his and mine issue should have gone out the door when you said your vows. You're building a life together, not seperately.
    That isn't to say that one should run up debt in the other person's name because that isn't fair. In comes self control and respect on that issue. But marriage is teamwork, for better or for worse.
    Well, when your finances are separate for the 8 years you're together prior to being married, it's hard to break old habits. I think my husband is just worried I'd spend all his (our) money and we'd never have any savings. LOL!

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    Quote Originally Posted by boysRsmelly View Post
    Well, when your finances are separate for the 8 years you're together prior to being married, it's hard to break old habits. I think my husband is just worried I'd spend all his (our) money and we'd never have any savings. LOL!
    Does he realize that even though you keep everything separate, that you could still spend all "his" money...all you would have to do is run up a credit card bill...it doesn't matter whose name the credit card is in...if you were to ever get divorced he would legally have to pay half (unless you agreed otherwise...but why would you do that?)

    By being so cut and dry with you, he's alienating you and making it hard for you two to work together. Personally, I would probalby have joint money, and then each of you have a little separate money to do what you please with.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NashvilleDiva_83 View Post
    Would you buy a new car without taking it for a test drive?

    Didn't think so.

    Enough said.

    This made me LOL...OLOLOL :)

    I so agree with you on this one. I'm not that prude, and I think waiting until your married is not fun at all. I think only people who are religious and have a close relationship with God (not that there is anything wrong with that at all) are people who wait until they're married.

    That's what being young is all about. Hvaing sexual experiences. I'm not saying people should be hoes (hos??), but you need to experience life, in all aspects.
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    I agree, having separate bills, etc. doesn't seem quite like a relationship. It's more like living 2 separate lives together. My boyfriend and I now don't even have separate bills, per se, we both pay for our cable, electricity, apartment, etc. We share our money. I mean, it's basically like we're married without being married. We have separate bank accounts, but we pay for each other's things all the time, because we love each other, and that's just what we do. We do this because we have confidence in our relationship, and we plan on getting married. It's not like we just are bf and gf who pay for each other.
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    For some reason this thread reminded me of my seventh grade gym teacher. I won't name him, because he might still teach somewhere and this sort of thing could probably get you fired.

    Some girls had a crush on him (not me...I haven't ever been in to jocks) and they asked him if he was married and this was his response (no joke...I heard it with my own two ears)

    "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"

    Okay. All that said...there's a fine line. You have to trust the person, know enough about them to trust that you won't catch anything etc. At the same time...if you wait like Charlotte did on SATC you may end up with a situation that is less than par.

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    I totally agree.

    I think people who wait until they're married, don't know what they're waiting for. What is sex? What is making love? I mean, do you know what you're waiting for if you're just waiting because you feel like you have to?
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    Quote Originally Posted by lilstrlett View Post
    I totally agree.

    I think people who wait until they're married, don't know what they're waiting for. What is sex? What is making love? I mean, do you know what you're waiting for if you're just waiting because you feel like you have to?
    I didn't wait until I was married. But I waited until I was sure he was the one that I was going to spend the rest of my life with. Sex is just sex. Making love isn't something to be taken lightly and it isn't the same as sex. When I make love to my husband, I'm opening up myself to him completely and absolutely. It's surreal. And so much more meaningful (it's not even on the same playing field) as having sex. Even amazing sex.
    And it's not a matter of being so close with God. Yes, I'm spiritual. Yes, I attend church and live my life as such. But that isn't the point. I did my time when I was in my late teens and early 20s and the feelings I have now are so incredible compared to then. But back then it was all just physical sex and the constant wondering whether he would stick around, would I have to go through this again, the insecurities, and what if he is cheating on me, etc. Now it's security, completion, the knowledge that no matter what happens he will always be there. I love this man more than myself. It's such a huge difference. I can put aside the games, the insecurity, and know that no matter what, he has my back.

    When my children get to the point that they are sexually aware, I will try my hardest to explain this to them. That sex can be so much more when it is with someone that makes you complete.
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    ^^^ITA with you Maevey... i feel the same way... and I'm Catholic and is very God-fearing but I didn't think there was anything wrong with sex before marriage... it's just a matter of beliefs... and how you feel about it.

    I didn't want to marry a guy who I haven't made love to and finding out he's a saddhist and likes pain during sex, then I would be putting myself up in a situation that I wouldn't be happy with my sex life forever.. you know what i mean...

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    Quote Originally Posted by boysRsmelly View Post
    Well, when your finances are separate for the 8 years you're together prior to being married, it's hard to break old habits. I think my husband is just worried I'd spend all his (our) money and we'd never have any savings. LOL!
    I feel for you bRs... IDK what I'd do if my DH was like this... no offense meant, but it's true that when you get married, what's your is mine and what's mine is yours (that being said, I'll tell my DH he can use my bags... lol!) seriously, this can be a problem for you in the long run bRs... but then everybody is different so whatever works for you is totally fine

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    Quote Originally Posted by juicyholicmum View Post
    I feel for you bRs... IDK what I'd do if my DH was like this... no offense meant, but it's true that when you get married, what's your is mine and what's mine is yours (that being said, I'll tell my DH he can use my bags... lol!) seriously, this can be a problem for you in the long run bRs... but then everybody is different so whatever works for you is totally fine
    I told my boyfriend "What's yours is mine. What's mine is mine." I was kidding though!

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    Quote Originally Posted by JessLR View Post
    I told my boyfriend "What's yours is mine. What's mine is mine." I was kidding though!
    lol!!!! that would work too...

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    Quote Originally Posted by juicyholicmum View Post
    I feel for you bRs... IDK what I'd do if my DH was like this... no offense meant, but it's true that when you get married, what's your is mine and what's mine is yours (that being said, I'll tell my DH he can use my bags... lol!) seriously, this can be a problem for you in the long run bRs... but then everybody is different so whatever works for you is totally fine
    Well I can't blame him... I'm pretty bad with money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by boysRsmelly View Post
    Well I can't blame him... I'm pretty bad with money.
    i am too!!! but he is pretty bad with money too.. makes us even... that's why we don't save any money lol!!!

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    I have a friend who keeps separate bank accounts with her DH. I found that quite weird. He would go off and spend loads of money on CDs, watches, etc while she's worrying about savings and the mortgage. I would ask her why does he spend on himself so much and her answer was - it's his money. I think if you're married, you're a team and working towards the same goals and you should trust each other. Maybe that sounds naive.

    What happens when you have kids? One of you won't be working so you'll have to depend on the other person financially.

    Brs, just want to add. whatever works for everyone is what counts.

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