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    Vintage Lover lilstrlett's Avatar
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    Default What do you do when...

    ... People who dont have an interest in fashion and accessories, or dont have the means to buy the type of things you have, ask you about your material things?

    Today (well I guess yesterday now) this girl was asking me where I got my jeans. I knew that she didnt shop at Sak's when I told her where I got them from, so I kind of said it like "oh, at Saks, but..." I felt uncomfortable because I didnt want her to think I was snobby or something. Then, this other girl was asking about my purse, and I told her the brand (my F+C bag), and she said she had never heard of it before and wanted to know where I bought it. I told her I got it online, "but it was like 65% off." So a third girl said to me "your parents must be loaded or something because you have a nice car and bags and stuff." I was like well my car is used. Thats all I could think of to say.

    How do you respond to something like that? It makes me feel uncomfortable when people point out my expensive things. I dont have them to be showy or be snobby or anything, it just happens to be what I like. When I'm around people who dont spend money on the things that I do, or dont have the means to, I kind of feel weird when they ask me about it because I feel like they're thinking bad things about me.

    Does anyone else ever feel like this? Or am I totally being silly?
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    Default Re: What do you do when...

    I know what you mean. But I actually feel more weird around my friends and family. If it's a stranger then I really don't mind because who are they to judge me ( and who am i to judge them). Just because I have a few designer bags doesn't mean I'm stuck up or rich or anything. Though I can see how people assume that.

    If someone I'm not close to asks about my bags or clothes and they happen to be expensive, I tell them the truth. But I don't say it like I'm better or anything. And if they make a comment like "oh, your parents must have money..." or something like that, i just say that no, that's not the case and i've worked for everything i have and no one else gave me money.

    now if my family, or friends ask...i never say what the real price is. like today, for example, my bf asked me how much my YSL wallet is and where i got it. there was no way i was going to tell him how much i spent...so i fibbed a little about the price. otherwise, he would be on my ass for spending that much...and so would my family.

    so i guess, for me, it depends on who i'm around...
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    Default Re: What do you do when...

    YOu guys are funny!! Who cares what other people think?! When people ask....Just tell them the truth and let them think what they want.

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    Default Re: What do you do when...

    haha - its easy because guys are different - girls judge other girls too easily
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    Default Re: What do you do when...

    ^yeah, that's very true about girls.
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    Default Re: What do you do when...

    Just smile and tell people you don't remember, sorry. That eliminates any of the negativity.
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    Default Re: What do you do when...

    Ya I really don't mind - what I hate is when people act like I'm an idiot for buying expensive things. It's like - hey sugar, you waste your hard earned cash on beer, I'll waste mine on luxury items and save the beer belly.

    That's all - my family - they know I'm nuts. haha!

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    What is annoying to me is that everyone assumes I have nice things because my husband is quite a bit older than me. Like at work, women are like... Oh I'd love a coach ... I'd get one too if I had a husband like you...

    Where my mom gets me is that I say I cannot afford to visit, and she's like ... Your purse cost $1300 and you can't afford a $400 plane ticket!? What I mean is I can't afford to take time off from work. Sheesh.

    Sometimes I feel like numbers and money suffocate me. Ever feel that way?

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    I hate it when people say "How did you afford that," or "When did you buy that, is that new?" or things like that. i just feel like money isn't something you really talk about, and I'm one of those people who feels uncomfortable talking about it when I feel like people are going to judge me because they come from a different background. I don't judge anyone based on where they come from or anything like that, so I hate it when people do it to me. Even if they don't say it out loud, you can just tell when they are.

    I know what you mean ND, I hate when people point out how much something you have costs, but then say "But you can't afford to do this..."

    (p.s. you're almost at 1000 posts!)
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    Personally I would just say it is no one's business but my own and it is rude to keep bringing it up.
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    ^^^ITA with all the stuff you guys are saying...

    I feel bad cos one of my close friends here is a single mum and doesn't have work so she lives off what the government gives her, and child support (if any) and then she sees our stuff and asks how much we paid for it and says she wishes she can afford that, like when she saw the SUV my DH bought me, she's like "I'd love to have a nice car instead of a beat up one" and I feel really bad... I guess I just hate talking about money...

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    ...plus she uses 2nd hand stuff for her baby, and she wants to give me her other used cot for my next bub, but I know my DH wouldn't want a pre-owned cot, he wants brand new things for our kids, and he really likes branded stuff so sometimes I have to lie to her and say like, oh I've put a cot on layaway already even if I haven't... but I feel really bad

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    Default Re: What do you do when...

    Whenever my family asks...I lie about the price or I try to change the subject. Usually people don't comment on HOW much it costs.

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    Default Re: What do you do when...

    I'm not one to brag or show off my stuff... (car, bags, clothes, jewelry, etc.) but I do feel uncomfortable when friends/acquaintances/people ask me about my stuff... IDK. Its info. I like to keep to myself. I always try to change the topic asap! Honestly, you tBF'ers are the only onces I can really talk to (besides the BF and Sister) ... everyone else thinks i'm nuts!

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    ^ i feel the same way about this place! only members here understand!!!
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