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    My husband was acting strange this morning. He asked me if I wanted to call in sick at work and we could take off to this other city together (about 45 minutes away) for the day. I told him I didn't think it was a good idea because we really shouldn't be spending money anyway. Plus I would have lost my pay for today at work. He got all pouty about it and then he refused to talk to me after that as I was getting ready to go to work. I feel kinda bad because he ACTUALLY wanted to spend time with me and I shot him down. As you all probably know, we haven't been connecting very well lately. Too much work and school, ya know?

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    I would have taken the day off.
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    I wouldn't have taken off work either because of the money...just think, the money you MADE that day could go towards something you both can do, ya know? But atleast he tried!! That was really sweet of him! You two could like schedule a day off of work in advance and do something special together. Like, go to a water park or get a couple's massage... something where you can be together!


    (Wish my bf would plan something for us to do, usually I am the one that does it lol!)

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    could you do it another day when neither of you have anything to do?

    Only you know your situation... But personally I would have taken the day off unless it would jeopardize it (dont want to get fired!!)

    I wouldnt beat yourself up... Just try to do something else special soon...

    If you haven't been connecting, have you thought of counseling or taking a team-building class together??

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    I seriously thought about calling in sick, but I knew that I would have regretted it later on (e.g. when I got my paycheck). Usually he's complaining because they don't give me enough hours at work as it is. I thought he would be a little more understanding about it. But he was being spontaneous, I guess. He wasn't thinking about the long term effects of our little "getaway". I felt bad because he was pouting about it. But I guess I shouldn't, wasn't he being just a teeny bit immature about it?

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    Tsk tsk tsk You shouldve taken the day off. Maybe, he had something special planned. But, on the other hand...He cant get mad if you refuse to take off work.

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    Nashville - He would totally be pooping out some new bricks if I suggested marriage counseling. He doesn't like to talk about feelings and stuff like that at all. His whole family is that way. I think his brother is worse than him though... but he has been working with his brother lately. He could be a bad influence.

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    I'm sorry... It must be hard for ya... Is there a way you can get him to tell you what's on his mind?? I never like the mind reading stuff...

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    ^^^ Oh God, yes! Mind reading is about all I do with him! Sheesh!

    Usually he doesn't like to tell me much, but he will talk about some things if I catch him in the right mood.

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    Awww, bRs! I totally understand the reasons why you didn't take the day off but on the other hand isn't this exactly what you have been wanting from him? Yes, you did make a responsible decision by going to work anyway and you will both bebefit from that later. (like payday)
    Just let him know tonight how much that meant to you and how much you appreciate the thought and that maybe you guys could schedule something special when you both have the day off.
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    can you just lay it out there on the table... I feel x,y, and z... How do you feel? I know you said no feeling talk... But what about blunt and to the point talk...

    For example..."honey I'd really have liked to take today off but we have this bill and that bill and I dont want you to feel like you have to bring in all the$$$"

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    Yeah, hopefully you can talk to him...then you can plan somethin' special & fun (:brows: lol jk!) together!

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    ::sigh:: Now I feel like I should have called in sick. Then again, my luck would be that somebody from work would see me. LOL!
    I'll let him know how sweet he was for suggesting it. Hopefully he isn't too discouraged by my decision. I don't want him to feel like I'm shutting him out either.

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    ^Yeah...just tell him how much it meant and that you'll make it up to him soon or something! Is he still sad?

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    Where is he now? And why are you on here and not making it up to him?? LOL!
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