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    ^^^ Oh, and I hope this didn't sound the wrong way (what I said earlier, I mean). Its not like I want to stay home anyway, LOL! I would much rather be working and have my own money as well. Its not like my husband is forcing me... but I do know he would be unhappy with me if I wasn't working too.
    This was my ex - and one of the reasons we are no longer together. The argument I say whenever anyone says the above... "So you would rather pay someone else to raise your children? Then why bother at all? Buy a dog instead." Cold, but true. At least you can find a home for a dog if you get tired of it. I see so many women who had kids because it was the thing to do and now resent the heck out of them. They want their career, and then they want to be able to go to the gym, go out to dinner, etc... Who has time for this strange little person who is pulling on their leg and demanding attention.

    I love being at home with my children. I couldn't imagine not being there for them 24/7. They are my life. I sold an extremely profitable business because I didn't want to work anymore. The time I spent away from them was agony for me.
    So now I have the best of both worlds. They go to a Christian homeschooling academy twice a week and then I homeschool them the rest of the week. On the days that they are in school, I do all the office stuff that is needed to be done (we own a business) and then have "playdates" with my friends. The rest of the time we finish up their school work and then head to the museum, the zoo, the aquarium, or any other place that calls out to us.
    It doesn't get any better. And before I had kids, I felt the same way. I had no problems having someone else raise my kids. I had an awesome career. Then I had them and my eyes were opened to momhood. Being a mom is a 24/7 full time job - no bones about it. Well, if you're a good parent anyway. And I say that because there are too many latch key kids. Too much lack of love and discipline nowdays. But that is a whole nother story...
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    I think if I ever got pregnat and had a baby, I would move back to the town where I went to college in Arkansas and then apply for an emergency teachers license and teach 4 or 5th grade. That way, I would have summers off and would be home when the kids were home and still have a job that had good healthcare.

    I love what I do now, but I work sometimes 50-60 hours per week, so it's hectic and they wouldnt let me slow down for kids.
    Sounds like the best of both worlds. I love teaching my crew.
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    ^^^ Yeah, I suppose. My husband is just really against me ever staying home. I think he's afraid I'll turn out like my mom. Paranoid and thinking everyone is out to get her. LOL! No... seriously, it's true. Also his brother's wife stays home despite the fact that they have free daycare (her parents) and that they are hurting for money right now. What bothers him the most though is that she is completely engrossed in her daughter. I mean, we're talking to the point where she never spends time with her own husband. She eats dinner with her daughter before her husband even gets home from work (which isn't that late) and then goes to bed at 8:30 every night and sleeps with her daughter. Something is wrong here... hehe, and I'm sure she's not getting "rewarded" with handbags.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maeveyblue View Post
    This was my ex - and one of the reasons we are no longer together. The argument I say whenever anyone says the above... "So you would rather pay someone else to raise your children? Then why bother at all? Buy a dog instead." Cold, but true. At least you can find a home for a dog if you get tired of it. I see so many women who had kids because it was the thing to do and now resent the heck out of them. They want their career, and then they want to be able to go to the gym, go out to dinner, etc... Who has time for this strange little person who is pulling on their leg and demanding attention.

    I love being at home with my children. I couldn't imagine not being there for them 24/7. They are my life. I sold an extremely profitable business because I didn't want to work anymore. The time I spent away from them was agony for me.
    So now I have the best of both worlds. They go to a Christian homeschooling academy twice a week and then I homeschool them the rest of the week. On the days that they are in school, I do all the office stuff that is needed to be done (we own a business) and then have "playdates" with my friends. The rest of the time we finish up their school work and then head to the museum, the zoo, the aquarium, or any other place that calls out to us.
    It doesn't get any better. And before I had kids, I felt the same way. I had no problems having someone else raise my kids. I had an awesome career. Then I had them and my eyes were opened to momhood. Being a mom is a 24/7 full time job - no bones about it. Well, if you're a good parent anyway. And I say that because there are too many latch key kids. Too much lack of love and discipline nowdays. But that is a whole nother story...
    i second this Maeveyblue, I'd rather raise my kids than leave them with strangers that I pay and not even know if they're doing a good job... I sacrificed a lot on being a stay at home mum, but I LOVE IT...

    I used to teach swimming to babies (we call them water babies) before I get pregnant again with our second child, and I would probably go back working as a swimming instructor. i love it too cos it only takes away 2 hours of my precious time with my baby, and he gets to spend daddy time with my husband. So yea being stay at home isn't as bad as some people reckons, and it's true what Maeveyblue said it's a 24/7 job, and probably the toughest career you'll ever come across. :)

    so bags are just a little reward... :)

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    How old is the daughter?
    My husband's friend is the same, She's TOO attached to her daughter... but I sort of understand as they've been trying for a baby for 10 years and had 3 miscarriages, but I do think it's wrong to be just a mum and not a wife

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maeveyblue View Post
    This was my ex - and one of the reasons we are no longer together. The argument I say whenever anyone says the above... "So you would rather pay someone else to raise your children? Then why bother at all? Buy a dog instead." Cold, but true. At least you can find a home for a dog if you get tired of it. I see so many women who had kids because it was the thing to do and now resent the heck out of them. They want their career, and then they want to be able to go to the gym, go out to dinner, etc... Who has time for this strange little person who is pulling on their leg and demanding attention.

    I love being at home with my children. I couldn't imagine not being there for them 24/7. They are my life. I sold an extremely profitable business because I didn't want to work anymore. The time I spent away from them was agony for me.
    So now I have the best of both worlds. They go to a Christian homeschooling academy twice a week and then I homeschool them the rest of the week. On the days that they are in school, I do all the office stuff that is needed to be done (we own a business) and then have "playdates" with my friends. The rest of the time we finish up their school work and then head to the museum, the zoo, the aquarium, or any other place that calls out to us.
    It doesn't get any better. And before I had kids, I felt the same way. I had no problems having someone else raise my kids. I had an awesome career. Then I had them and my eyes were opened to momhood. Being a mom is a 24/7 full time job - no bones about it. Well, if you're a good parent anyway. And I say that because there are too many latch key kids. Too much lack of love and discipline nowdays. But that is a whole nother story...
    I admire that you love being with your kids 24/7. Being a mum is so much harder than anything else I've ever done. I love my kids to death, but I need the balance of having a life and career outside of the home, plus the extra income is really helpful of course. I hope I'm not being judged as a bad mother. I was working 4 days a week previously and at first, I felt really guilty, but I saw that my son was learning so much from the early learning centre. And during the times I was with him, I would give him my 100%. I do feel that some mothers are at home all the time and may not even be connected with their kids. I am still undecided whether I would go back to work once my daughter is one. It's almost a case whether it's even worth it with the cost of daycare. I suppose my point is, not all mothers who work don't care enough about their kids. Each individual case and family is different and there is no one right way. As mothers we should support each others' decision as it is a hard enough job.

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    Maevey, she's almost 6 now. They let her sleep a good 10 or 11 hours every night and my sister-in-law sleeps with her for the entire time.

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    I admire that you love being with your kids 24/7. Being a mum is so much harder than anything else I've ever done. I love my kids to death, but I need the balance of having a life and career outside of the home, plus the extra income is really helpful of course. I hope I'm not being judged as a bad mother. I was working 4 days a week previously and at first, I felt really guilty, but I saw that my son was learning so much from the early learning centre. And during the times I was with him, I would give him my 100%. I do feel that some mothers are at home all the time and may not even be connected with their kids. I am still undecided whether I would go back to work once my daughter is one. It's almost a case whether it's even worth it with the cost of daycare. I suppose my point is, not all mothers who work don't care enough about their kids. Each individual case and family is different and there is no one right way. As mothers we should support each others' decision as it is a hard enough job.
    true.... every scenario's different, and I think you're a great mum arianne12 just for making the right decisions that concerns your kids.

    originally my plan was to go back to work when my son is about 2, but since I'm having another one as well I don't think I'd be able to go anytime soon. :)

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    Quote Originally Posted by boysRsmelly View Post
    Maevey, she's almost 6 now. They let her sleep a good 10 or 11 hours every night and my sister-in-law sleeps with her for the entire time.
    Depending on whether my kids are having growth spurts, they can sleep that long, if not longer. Right now my son falls asleep around 9 every night, sleeps to roughly 8 and then naps for about 2 hours during the day. I think that is pretty normal.
    As to the sleeping issue, my husband and I have an awesome sex life. That being said, both my kids still snuggle in with both of us at night and then fall asleep in our bed. We obviously move them once they are asleep (so we can have alone time) but I wouldn't trade that time for the world. Neither would my husband. We joke about how pathetic we are going to be when they are teenagers and want nothing to do with us, or snuggling. They grow up so quickly.
    I realize that a lot of women out there use their children as an excuse to not be intimate with their husbands and that is truly sad to me. I cherish that time with my dh. We make it a point of having at least 1 date night a week, if not 2. Being in Ireland this past month has killed us because my parents were only here for 2 weeks and we were able to take one long weekend vacation just the two of us. Beyond that, we haven't had a sitter.
    My children come first to both my husband and I, but we each tie to each other for a close second. This is the way it should be. Does that make excuses for ignoring your hubby? Absolutely not. It just means that sometimes the kids are going to come first and my dh is okay with that. As he should be. And vice versa.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maeveyblue View Post
    Depending on whether my kids are having growth spurts, they can sleep that long, if not longer. Right now my son falls asleep around 9 every night, sleeps to roughly 8 and then naps for about 2 hours during the day. I think that is pretty normal.
    As to the sleeping issue, my husband and I have an awesome sex life. That being said, both my kids still snuggle in with both of us at night and then fall asleep in our bed. We obviously move them once they are asleep (so we can have alone time) but I wouldn't trade that time for the world. Neither would my husband. We joke about how pathetic we are going to be when they are teenagers and want nothing to do with us, or snuggling. They grow up so quickly.
    I realize that a lot of women out there use their children as an excuse to not be intimate with their husbands and that is truly sad to me. I cherish that time with my dh. We make it a point of having at least 1 date night a week, if not 2. Being in Ireland this past month has killed us because my parents were only here for 2 weeks and we were able to take one long weekend vacation just the two of us. Beyond that, we haven't had a sitter.
    My children come first to both my husband and I, but we each tie to each other for a close second. This is the way it should be. Does that make excuses for ignoring your hubby? Absolutely not. It just means that sometimes the kids are going to come first and my dh is okay with that. As he should be. And vice versa.
    I see what you're saying and I agree with you. But what my sister-in-law is doing is not "normal". I feel really bad for my husband's brother. He's most likely not getting any. LOL!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Arianne12 View Post
    I admire that you love being with your kids 24/7. Being a mum is so much harder than anything else I've ever done. I love my kids to death, but I need the balance of having a life and career outside of the home, plus the extra income is really helpful of course. I hope I'm not being judged as a bad mother. I was working 4 days a week previously and at first, I felt really guilty, but I saw that my son was learning so much from the early learning centre. And during the times I was with him, I would give him my 100%. I do feel that some mothers are at home all the time and may not even be connected with their kids. I am still undecided whether I would go back to work once my daughter is one. It's almost a case whether it's even worth it with the cost of daycare. I suppose my point is, not all mothers who work don't care enough about their kids. Each individual case and family is different and there is no one right way. As mothers we should support each others' decision as it is a hard enough job.

    There is time for that once they are in school. Their first three years are the most valuable time because they are being molded into who they will be. They learn to walk, to talk, to reason, they are discovering who they are. All these wonderful milestones are things you miss out on if you aren't with them 24/7. I can't imagine having a daycare worker (or even my mom) telling me about my daughter taking her first steps or saying her first word. These are their formidable years. Just give it time. Before you know it, they will be out of the house from 8 to 4 every day in school. Nash had an awesome idea about teaching. That way she gets the summers off and has the quality time with them after school. When you are working full time, the day care workers raise your children. A friend of mine, who was totally career oriented, calculated out the time she spent with her son. And keep in mind when they are sleeping you aren't spending quality time with them.

    One hour in the morning while getting ready for work and getting them ready. 1 HOUR x 5 (5 HOURS)

    Pick up from day care at 6 and then into bed by 8pm (latest) 2-3 HOURS x 5 (15 HOURS)

    Weekends: Wake-up at 8am then into bed at 8pm. 24 HOURS (24 HOURS)

    Time they spend in day care per week figuring in by 9am and out by 6pm (45 HOURS)

    They spend 44 hours a week (awake) with mom and 45 hours (awake) with the day care people. Pretty astounding.
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    I see what you're saying and I agree with you. But what my sister-in-law is doing is not "normal". I feel really bad for my husband's brother. He's most likely not getting any. LOL!
    LOL!

    Off topic but...my brother and sister-in-law's kids still sleep in their room. My nephew is almost 4 and sleeps in their bed...and my niece (who will be 10 this year) sleeps in their bed or on their floor. They don't want them to...but they let them. Now THAT is not normal!

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    Quote Originally Posted by boysRsmelly View Post
    I see what you're saying and I agree with you. But what my sister-in-law is doing is not "normal". I feel really bad for my husband's brother. He's most likely not getting any. LOL!
    I feel for him too but have to wonder about the marriage on a whole. There is obviously something going on there and it is never just one sided. Maybe he needs to start wining and dining her more. Date night at least once a week is so important in keeping a marriage happy and healthy. This is our time to really talk to each other and for me to be "his girlfriend".
    Personally, I would suggest that to your husband or to him and see what happens. She may be clinging onto the daughter because she feels like that is all she has. He needs to make her feel needed and wanted and vice versa. It's a vicious cycle because once you start down that road it is so hard to come back from it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maeveyblue View Post
    There is time for that once they are in school. Their first three years are the most valuable time because they are being molded into who they will be. They learn to walk, to talk, to reason, they are discovering who they are. All these wonderful milestones are things you miss out on if you aren't with them 24/7. I can't imagine having a daycare worker (or even my mom) telling me about my daughter taking her first steps or saying her first word. These are their formidable years. Just give it time. Before you know it, they will be out of the house from 8 to 4 every day in school. Nash had an awesome idea about teaching. That way she gets the summers off and has the quality time with them after school. When you are working full time, the day care workers raise your children. A friend of mine, who was totally career oriented, calculated out the time she spent with her son. And keep in mind when they are sleeping you aren't spending quality time with them.

    One hour in the morning while getting ready for work and getting them ready. 1 HOUR x 5 (5 HOURS)

    Pick up from day care at 6 and then into bed by 8pm (latest) 2-3 HOURS x 5 (15 HOURS)

    Weekends: Wake-up at 8am then into bed at 8pm. 24 HOURS (24 HOURS)

    Time they spend in day care per week figuring in by 9am and out by 6pm (45 HOURS)

    They spend 44 hours a week (awake) with mom and 45 hours (awake) with the day care people. Pretty astounding.

    I think we've gone off topic on this thread! I appreciate what you're saying. It's fantastic that what you're doing works for you but I think there seems to be two separate camps of stay at home mums vs working mums when that doesn't have to be that way. I took 14 months off and was there for my son when he walked and said his first words and I only went back to work part time for three months and now I'm at home again. So technically, I am a stay at home mum. But I don't think less of my friends who are working. I'm sure some of them would stay at home if they financially can afford it... now, what about men who don't understand bag addiction, eh??

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    YES! Back on topic, girls!


    Has anyone of you got into an arguement over bags with anyone?...I have lol!


    My brother said they're ugly and they aren't worth that much. And his LOOONG time gf (I call her my sister-in-law) said my MK gunmetal astor looked like something from KMart (wtf lol)!!! My mom thinks I have enough bags....she threw a FIT because I told her what I spent on my F+C clutch!! I'm sure if my bf and I had an apartment and I spent alot on a bag he'd be upset...but he wouldn't be MAD.


    Lol, all I gotta say is...thank god (and Jennifer) for this forum and all the members...otherwise, I'd have no one to relate to bag-wise!
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