Okay, I rarely complain about my bf, but after this weekend I just wanted to kill him! So on Friday night we were out with a couple friends and I wanted to go home... so I just left without saying goodbye. I figured it wasn't a big deal, I live a block away from where we were. Plus, h-e-l-l-o I have a cellphone. Anyway he wasn't happy about that. And said I totally embarrassed him.
Next day. On Saturday we were at the same place. I was bored so I told him I want to go home. We said goodbye to eachother.
W-E-L-L........... ..... I went home. Fell asleep. Woke up at 5:30 in the morning. He wasn't here. And he wasn't answering his phone! I was really worried, because he's never done anything like this before, plus one of our friends was recently beaten up in the area. So I was freaking out. ( ( That night we were hanging out with his business partners who happen to live on the same floor ) ) So I when I went in the hall way I heard nothing.. then I walked all the way to the other end and I heard talking... so I knocked on the door and his friend answers... (btw, I'm in my pj's!) I'm like "uhhhh is dan here?" ... they're playing rockband!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! O-m-g. He came home 30 min later and slept on the couch.
So yesterday, I guess to get back.. I locked him out and disappeared for a couple hours.. so he was sitting in the lobby from 7: pm to 10: pm... only 3 hours...oh and I turned off my phone. My gosh, I was back by 10:! He says what I did was far meaner. I disagree.
I don't know. Maybe because I took the spare key, so I deliberately locked him out and turned off my phone. But what he did was an accident. He didn't know it was so late...
You remind me of my bff. When her Husband f's up he better be ready for her to teach him a lesson, lol. I bet he won't do it again. I wouldn't feel too bad about it, Jen.
Well Jennifer... you were the first one that pulled the disappearing act. From what it sounds like to me, your second thing was intentional and the first two things were accidental. Is your bf mad?
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I think he should have at least called as a courtesy and let you know that he was going to be late... But he could argue that you should have said bye when you left the first night...
I don't think you overreacted but I would be careful with the "teaching him a lesson" card...you don't want it to turn in to something you would totally regret and you don't want him to take it hat far either...
My ex and I were like that with each other and one day he thought he would teach me a lesson and so he packed his things and moved in with his best friend (a dude) ... I had enough so I filed for divorce and started dating my current husband... That was the best lesson he taught me!! Ha!
I wouldnt stress over it, just dont make revenge a habit
Well... (don't hate me)... You should have said your goodbye the first time... I bet he was worried and I would be quite embarrassed too if my BF took off like that in front of friends... because then they "talk", ya know??!
But then again, I'd be pissed at the fact that he worried you too, so... i'm not one to talk because I would ALSO do something to piss him off/get him back!
I guess you all can call each other "even".... Yes??!
lol... btw, that's pretty funny what you did to him... I bet he had sooo much fun in the Lobby!
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I guess. I did sort of purposely lock him out.. I wont do that again. (he shouldn't have lost his keys!)
Also, more clarification on the first night: We weren't even really hanging out together. He was outside on the balcony with his friends. I was wearing a dress and not standing in 30* weather. So I was sitting inside. Alone. Well there was some guy sitting next to me -- we were talking for like 40 min. Then I was like, wow, boring. So I slipped out.
Also, to get more points on my side... he does this to me everyday Monday though Sunday. Yes he works everyday. They just got investment for their latest venture so he's been super busy. He works from 9:am to sometimes 10: pm (at the office) then comes home to work. But when I message him at 6: pm I'm usually like what time are you coming home... and then he usually says "15 min" but over the last 5 years when my bf says 15 min he really means 1-2+ hours. Never 15 min. It doesn't really bother me anymore because he's working on something big, not really out partying. But still. It just feels like the same thing.
Also, more clarification on the first night: We weren't even really hanging out together. He was outside on the balcony with his friends. I was wearing a dress and not standing in 30* weather. So I was sitting inside. Alone. Well there was some guy sitting next to me -- we were talking for like 40 min. Then I was like, wow, boring. So I slipped out.
Umm... ok, this info. totally changes the story then! Well, if you're "alone", when in reality, he should be with you, then you made your point by leaving... I wouldn't "chill" alone, anywhere, when the BoyToy's "having a good time" at the same place, esp. if we're supposed to be hanging out together...
...and clearly it's his fault for losing his keys...
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This sounds like what I was like with my ex-boyfriend - I used to get so bored hanging out with his friends because he would always leave me by myself around people I didn't know. And he would do the same thing to me, just not answer phone calls from me, which would make me nervous and scared, and he knew that. He would do it to "teach me a lesson."
In the heat of the moment nothing ever seems like it's wrong or stupid, but when you think back to it you think "Crap, I shouldn't have done that but I don't want to admit to myself that it was wrong!" It's our stupid conscience kicking in! I think we as girls like to get back at the boys for doing stupid things, and we think with our emotions more, which can get us in trouble.
I think you guys should apologize to each other and say what you're mad about, but not yell or get mad at each other about it. I always used the "sad, victim" voice so my boyfriend would feel bad :) Then you guys can make up
Did I over overreact? I say no.
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