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princesslisa · March 26th, 2007, 09:24 PM

ok this is about boyfriend issues

this all started a while ago i was at my bfs house and i noticed a pic of a girl on his dresser and i asked him about it he said oh i guess my mom put it there i dont talk to her anymore i used to talk to her in a chat room then he threw out the pic i believed him

now right around the holidays he was on my comp and he left to go home and he was still signed in to myspace when i snooped around his myspace page

I KNOW I WAS WRONG FOR DOING THIS BUT I COULDNT HELP IT

but there was a message from the girl in his inbox it was a pic of her in a slutty mrs. claus outfit and he responded thanks for the pic my holiday is complete now
i was so upset so i decided.....NOW I KNOW I AM WRONG AGAIN
i deleted her and some few random people(so it didnt seem odd) off his profile cuz i wanted to see if he would add her again

AND HE DID
SO THEY DEF TALK
i figured i should not worry about it cuz her profile says she is from virgina but you can always lie about that

so i have no clue what to do my boyfriend seems kinda distant latly and i worry that he may me cheating becuause he doent work now and he has all day to do nothing

i never thought i would post this here but i feel like i have nobody to talk to all of my cloest friends dont have boyfriends

LikityKity · March 26th, 2007, 10:17 PM

Hmm... lies...might be cheating... doesn't have a job... sounds like a winner!

purse-aholic* · March 26th, 2007, 10:29 PM

im glad im not the only one who posted a bf issue...lol

princess, i totally support you and please dont feel like you have no one to talk to. everyone here at tbf is wonderful...just read what i posted and you will see how understanding and caring these girls really are. you have plenty of honest, sincere people to talk to here, ok?

Jennifer · March 27th, 2007, 12:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LikityKity

Hmm... lies...might be cheating... doesn't have a job... sounds like a winner!

hahaha you took the words right out of my mouth

angelthelson · March 27th, 2007, 04:24 AM

sounds like cheating to me, hmmm, lying, being distant, i can smell something fishy..... be very careful and follow your intuitions

boysRsmelly · March 27th, 2007, 08:00 AM

Why not just come right out and ask him? Hehe... make him squirm a little!

VivaLaJuicy · March 27th, 2007, 01:19 PM

Sorry Hun... that's def. a cheater! Why don't you confront him??? OMG... sooo many people are having relationship problems... I just got off the phone w/ my crying sister as well... Anyways, confront him and ask him about her!!!!

princesslisa · March 27th, 2007, 05:45 PM

well i am continuing my investagative work i want to make sure 100 percent without a doubt have all the evidence i need cuz i dont want to seen like an idiot cuz i snooped on his account

boysRsmelly · March 27th, 2007, 06:37 PM

Hehe... why not ask some of those girls if he has been messing around with them?

Marissa806 · March 27th, 2007, 07:52 PM

if he lies?? he's a cheater. i don't care what anyone says but BF + doing anything with another girl = cheating...

princesslisa · March 27th, 2007, 07:53 PM

well i must say my second job should be a detective i know his myspace password now i know im bad nothing on there today to make me upset lol

angelthelson · March 28th, 2007, 05:59 AM

maybe coz he sensed that you are already snooping around...

LikityKity · March 29th, 2007, 02:45 PM

I wouldn't go so far as to say that this is evidence that he's cheating, for sure. BUT, there are obviously some trust problems in your relationship. You should ask yourself if you are transferring mistrust from experiences with other people in your past, or if this guy has given you a real reason not to trust him. True, it's pretty uncool of him to be chatting with some girl who is disreputable enough to send slutty pictures of herself to men in committed relationships, but he might just be a naive guy who doesn't take it seriously and is a little flattered by the attention. But, you've also been doing a bit of snooping and the gravity of these little lapses in judgment might just balance out. All I'm saying is, this could all be a very innocent misunderstanding, or it could be a seriously damaged relationship.

Consider if you are prone to mistrust because of your past; did someone cheat on you? You might need to come to terms with your own fears for the sake of your relationship. Consider his past. Has he cheated before? I am a believer of the "once a cheater, always a cheater" rule.

Take care of yourself, and we are here for you as well!

March 26th, 2007, 09:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
princesslisa Bags R A Girls Bestfriend Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: New York Posts: 445	gotta help me out ok this is about boyfriend issues this all started a while ago i was at my bfs house and i noticed a pic of a girl on his dresser and i asked him about it he said oh i guess my mom put it there i dont talk to her anymore i used to talk to her in a chat room then he threw out the pic i believed him now right around the holidays he was on my comp and he left to go home and he was still signed in to myspace when i snooped around his myspace page I KNOW I WAS WRONG FOR DOING THIS BUT I COULDNT HELP IT but there was a message from the girl in his inbox it was a pic of her in a slutty mrs. claus outfit and he responded thanks for the pic my holiday is complete now i was so upset so i decided.....NOW I KNOW I AM WRONG AGAIN i deleted her and some few random people(so it didnt seem odd) off his profile cuz i wanted to see if he would add her again AND HE DID SO THEY DEF TALK i figured i should not worry about it cuz her profile says she is from virgina but you can always lie about that so i have no clue what to do my boyfriend seems kinda distant latly and i worry that he may me cheating becuause he doent work now and he has all day to do nothing i never thought i would post this here but i feel like i have nobody to talk to all of my cloest friends dont have boyfriends

March 26th, 2007, 10:17 PM	#2 (permalink)
LikityKity Hello! Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: East Coast Posts: 111	Re: gotta help me out Hmm... lies...might be cheating... doesn't have a job... sounds like a winner!

March 26th, 2007, 10:29 PM	#3 (permalink)
purse-aholic* Rising Bag Star Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: CT Posts: 131	Re: gotta help me out im glad im not the only one who posted a bf issue...lol princess, i totally support you and please dont feel like you have no one to talk to. everyone here at tbf is wonderful...just read what i posted and you will see how understanding and caring these girls really are. you have plenty of honest, sincere people to talk to here, ok?

March 27th, 2007, 04:24 AM	#5 (permalink)
angelthelson i love myself Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: land of milk and honey Posts: 535	Re: gotta help me out sounds like cheating to me, hmmm, lying, being distant, i can smell something fishy..... be very careful and follow your intuitions __________________ have: mono papillon 26 Last edited by angelthelson; March 27th, 2007 at 04:30 AM.

March 27th, 2007, 08:00 AM	#6 (permalink)
boysRsmelly Moderator and Blogger Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 5,167	Re: gotta help me out Why not just come right out and ask him? Hehe... make him squirm a little! __________________ Current Wishlist Balenciaga Mini Classique or Shoulder See by Chloe Animalia Keychain My Blog Posts

March 27th, 2007, 01:19 PM	#7 (permalink)
VivaLaJuicy MODERATOR/BLOGGER Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Weslaco, Texas Posts: 5,862	Re: gotta help me out Sorry Hun... that's def. a cheater! Why don't you confront him??? OMG... sooo many people are having relationship problems... I just got off the phone w/ my crying sister as well... Anyways, confront him and ask him about her!!!!

March 27th, 2007, 05:45 PM	#8 (permalink)
princesslisa Bags R A Girls Bestfriend Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: New York Posts: 445	Re: gotta help me out well i am continuing my investagative work i want to make sure 100 percent without a doubt have all the evidence i need cuz i dont want to seen like an idiot cuz i snooped on his account

March 27th, 2007, 06:37 PM	#9 (permalink)
boysRsmelly Moderator and Blogger Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 5,167	Re: gotta help me out Hehe... why not ask some of those girls if he has been messing around with them? __________________ Current Wishlist Balenciaga Mini Classique or Shoulder See by Chloe Animalia Keychain My Blog Posts

March 27th, 2007, 07:52 PM	#10 (permalink)
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March 27th, 2007, 07:53 PM	#11 (permalink)
princesslisa Bags R A Girls Bestfriend Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: New York Posts: 445	Re: gotta help me out well i must say my second job should be a detective i know his myspace password now i know im bad nothing on there today to make me upset lol

March 28th, 2007, 05:59 AM	#12 (permalink)
angelthelson i love myself Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: land of milk and honey Posts: 535	Re: gotta help me out maybe coz he sensed that you are already snooping around... __________________ have: mono papillon 26

March 29th, 2007, 02:45 PM	#13 (permalink)
LikityKity Hello! Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: East Coast Posts: 111	Re: gotta help me out I wouldn't go so far as to say that this is evidence that he's cheating, for sure. BUT, there are obviously some trust problems in your relationship. You should ask yourself if you are transferring mistrust from experiences with other people in your past, or if this guy has given you a real reason not to trust him. True, it's pretty uncool of him to be chatting with some girl who is disreputable enough to send slutty pictures of herself to men in committed relationships, but he might just be a naive guy who doesn't take it seriously and is a little flattered by the attention. But, you've also been doing a bit of snooping and the gravity of these little lapses in judgment might just balance out. All I'm saying is, this could all be a very innocent misunderstanding, or it could be a seriously damaged relationship. Consider if you are prone to mistrust because of your past; did someone cheat on you? You might need to come to terms with your own fears for the sake of your relationship. Consider his past. Has he cheated before? I am a believer of the "once a cheater, always a cheater" rule. Take care of yourself, and we are here for you as well!

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