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    Default Should we dress down to stay safe ?

    I am a businesswoman and always dress smartly in business skirt suits and heels I sometimes at night feel a little overdressed especially while commuting from work, and for the most part I receive admiring glances from my fellow travellers of both sexes. However a month or so back I got some very unwanted attention. Shortly after exiting the station I became aware of two youths following me, I had noticed them staring at me on the train but thought little of it but now on the street which was empty seeing them behind me unnerved me, they closed up on me, firmly clutching my handbag I quickened my pace a little but the pencil skirt and heels made running out of the question, besides I still could not be sure of their intentions. It soon became clear, the two thugs started to run up behind me, easily catching me, I screamed, one of them grabbed me from behind and clamped his hand over my mouth, the other began punching me I was terrified, they continued their brutal attack punching and kicking me to the ground, ripping of my watch and jewellery laughing as they did so I think they were on drugs. They finally left me with a parting kick to my stomach and grabbing up my handbag ran off into the night. I am convinced they assaulted me because I looked wealthy in my suit plus they knew that it would be impossible for me to get away. Are there any other members who have had a similar experience or just felt vulnerable when well dressed.

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    Wow I am so sorry this happened to you. You must have been so frightened! Did they ever catch them?

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    No Jennifer they have not been caught and according to the police unlikely to be. The violence they used on me was completely over the top, I put up no resistance to them taking my stuff, I was defenceless, it was pure mindless thuggery, and I have been left shocked and traumatised

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    The simple answer to the question is NO of course we should not have to. Every woman has the perfect right to walk the streets without fear of being attacked. Unfortunately we live in a society where low life criminals will look out for a well dressed person to target so we have to take extra precautions, I was also the victim of a violent mugging. I also like to be smart for the workplace but if I no that I am going to be walking alone after dark in a shady area I will cover up with an old coat and make sure I am in pants and keep the heels for the office. This still does not mean I wont be attacked again but it gives a lone woman less of a sense of vulnerability. My heartfelt wishes go out to you businesslady and hope you will slowly recover from that horrible ordeal

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    Default Re: Should we dress down to stay safe ?

    Quote Originally Posted by MaudeRivera View Post
    yes i would also say that women have right to dress anything on their own wish, and nobody could stop them to do so. if they do such things whats the problem in it nothing is going to affect them a ,lot
    That though is the problem ladies like business lady and myself who have been attacked have been affected a lot and maybe if we were not so well dressed we would have been left alone

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    Not necessarily, but personally I would. I was mugged carrying a LeSportsac backpack and wearing jeans & a tee shirt. I was spared the physical violence, although I put up a tug of war with my assailant. When I saw him reach for inside his jacket, I immediately let go, and then decided to pursue him when bystanders helped me and told me to stop running after him. Police bluntly told me that it happened to me because I was alone and I was female. What I also remember is that women notice details but think little of it. I was waiting by myself in a bus shelter and vividly recalling a car passing me twice or three times (just circling me before the attack), before attempting robbery. After this experience and this was more than 10 years ago, I didn't want to carry any type of bag!!! I wish you all the best in your healing and recovering strength. I found speaking about it with family extremely helpful and supportive.

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    Default Re: Should we dress down to stay safe ?

    I wish the long arm of the lwa catches up with those thugs.

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    Default Re: Should we dress down to stay safe ?

    I used to dress up a lot for work too and there was never anyone around when I left at 10-11. I worked at a funeral home though some most people were too stupid to get over their superstitions and the rest thought I was nuts for working there. This is another reason why I support women carrying guns. It's just like those activist that say a woman should never be raped because she was dressed provocatively. It's not you're dressed well, it's that you were there, and a woman.

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