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    Default Annoyed with my visitors!! GrRr

    So...My youngest brother, his GF, and three other friends of his are here visiting from Boston. Even though theyre making a mess with this place, Im still fine.

    Since they arrived last fri...I tried to be a good host (because I know that they are limited on funds...since theyre college students) by renting them a car, took them out everyday, dealt with their none stop yaking about nothing, them raiding my fridge, trashing my short term rented condo, and acted as their personal tour guide all over L.A from morning til night.

    ALL this Im kinda fine with. One of the things that kinda annoy me is that nobody ever offers to pick up the check when we go out to eat. When the bill comes...They would just all sit there quietly lol. Dont get me wrong, I would never let them pay in the first place since theyre younger.

    But, I thoujght it wwould be nice if someone would just open their mouth to offer or Maybe, pretend to reach for their wallet or check....OR SOMETHING!! SHEEESH! BUT NADA.

    ANd another thing!! I get the feeling that theyre getting used to it and are expecting me to pay eveytime we go out. Which annoys me even more. lol


    Well, That's all I haveta say about that...(in a Forrest Gump accent).








    Thank you for listening to me vent. =)

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    Default Re: Annoyed with my visitors!! GrRr

    I would say something just bring it up as a conversation you know like...does any one want to split something or you can always use the oops I forgot my cc at home or in the car (lol)


    I mean everytime I visit family out of town or just regular family visit I try to help out where ever I can (cook, clean, at least after my self n the hubbs)

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    You're so nice Guy - I would have been like "you can stay here but you need to pay for your own food." My sister would never pay for me like that, so it's awfully nice of you to do that. I also would never expect someone to pay for me. I would feel so rude just staying with my sister, and having her pay for me.
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    Default Re: Annoyed with my visitors!! GrRr

    That is nice of you! I guess it is because they are younger, but I would never expect somebody that isn't related to me to pay for dinner all the time. I mean it is one thing for your brother, but his friends. Haha your just too nice! I can't believe they don't even feel a bit of guilt, after seeing check after check come by.

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    Default Re: Annoyed with my visitors!! GrRr

    Aww... that's my big sweetie Guy for ya!!!

    You know what Guy? I think you are probably being just a wee bit too nice. I agree with iloveshopping, it's one thing to pay for your little brother's things... but all his friends too? Shouldn't be happening. Maybe you could pull your brother off to the side and say something to him about it. You know, brother to brother.

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    Default Re: Annoyed with my visitors!! GrRr

    ^^ that's what I'm saying

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    Default Re: Annoyed with my visitors!! GrRr

    You are too nice GUY and it looks like your brother and his friends are taking advantage of it.

    I am very close to my brother and sister. When i visit them, they take me around, buy me things and are great hosts, but when we eat out I pick up the check. It is a small way to repay someone for opening their home to you.
    If they can't afford to pay a check outside, tell them to sit their butt down and eat ramen noodles at home!
    I think you should say something
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    Default Re: Annoyed with my visitors!! GrRr

    I'd def. talk to your brother if I were you. I can't believe the friends aren't embarrassed about it either, I'd def. be if I was taking advantage of somebody as sweet as you! : /

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    Default Re: Annoyed with my visitors!! GrRr

    Thanks for the advises you guys. But, I'd feel too weird to bring it up. I think Im just going to ride it out until they leave Sunday night.

    Btw, Earlier today I thought it would be nice to have a BBQ by the pool. So, I packed them all up to go grocery shopping. We were strolling through the market and everybody threw what they wanted into the cart. When it was time to check out....They all magically dissapeared into thin air faster than cris Angel.

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    You are too nice a Guy! I just cannot believe your brother and his friends don't have one bit of guilt.

    My two sisters and I are taking our kids school clothes shopping in a big town over an hour away next Friday. We invited my mother and grandmother to go with us, just because we thought it would be fun for them to help us pick out stuff for the kids.

    We live in a small town in Texas, with no big mall, so we are going to a real mall, yee haw, and are looking forward to the day.

    My grandmother sold her home a few years back and lives with my mom and dad now. She has some money in the bank from the sale of that home and gets her social security check, so she's comfortable.

    When we invited her to go she immediately said, "Oh, I'll buy lunch." She was so thrilled to go. Now, my sisters and I set her straight on the fact that she wasn't invited along just to bring her checkbook and spend it on us. We invited her because we thought she would like an afternoon out.

    The point I am trying to make with this long-winded tale is that I am not comfortable mooching off someone else, and quite frankly your brother shouldn't be either. And you do realize that since you are allowing him to do it now, he will continue to do it each time he visits.

    If you decide to allow him the rest of this visit, then make a point of saying to yourself that when he gets out of college and gets a job you are going to expect him to pick up the tab when you visit him. lol


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    Default Re: Annoyed with my visitors!! GrRr

    WOW - I just got back from a trip where we stayed with hubby's family. We made sure we picked up after ourselves, stocked their fridge and replaced anything that we ate, helped with the cooking (and clean-up), and tried to NOT get in their way too much.

    Guy - you're being taken advantage of by these slackers!! I get that they're college students: aka broke, but come on! Seriously - they've parked themselves in your place, you've provided them with transportation, meals, and personal service (tour guide)....you're not a luxury resort! I agree with everyone else - it's one thing to pay for your brother, but you should not be expected to buy everything for the friends. Dinners? Grocery cart full of hand-picked goodies? When they disappeared, i would have walked out and left them and the cart behind. But I'm bitchy like that!

    At minimum, get them all up before they leave, hand one the dish-soap , another the dustrag, and another the vacuum and make them clean your place for your overly generous hospitality.

    (* totally off topic: I love that there was a smiley for each chore!!)

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    Quote Originally Posted by kidchamp69 View Post
    We live in a small town in Texas, with no big mall, so we are going to a real mall, yee haw,
    I love the "yee Haw", That made me smile. lol



    Everyone is right. I guess Im just kinda going out of my way to be the "cool" older brother. I just want them all to leave and say "wow! That was an awesome trip!!" and not "Whoa, that dude is more anal than Martha Stewart".

    To their credit, They did take turns washing the dishes.



    Im taking them to Seaworld tomorrow. We'll see how that goes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by THE-GUY View Post

    Im taking them to Seaworld tomorrow. We'll see how that goes.
    You are just too nice!!!

    be prepared to foot all the bills if the past few days are any indicator. maybe you could suggest taht everyone pays for their own ticket
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    SeaWorld is expensive. You are soooo generous! Kick your brother out and I'll come and be your sis. And I promise to clean up after myself and chip in what I can. (I am a schoolteacher, so while I make a salary, it's not a huge one!)

    Why couldn't I have a sibling like you? lol

    Unfortunately, all my sisters are like me. BOARB-(Broke on a Regular Basis) lol

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    You are waay too nice to them. If you feel bad about them not paying the check then it is probably exactly what you think.

    I am going to be completely honest with you, this is my advice.
    I think it is okay to want to be a brother to look up to, infact I wish I had a brother like this. But letting this free check-friend situation occur does not always redeem respect. If I was your sister and I saw this, I would be furious. I don't think its right or fair that your brother is not saying anything. Don't let them walk all over you, tell them who's boss, don't be afraid of a bunch of kids who eat ramen noodle soup on a daily basis.

    If they talk back to you or give you an arguement , I could imagine saying this " Maybe one day when you grow up you will understand. But as of right now you are a bunch of silly little college kids who eat ramen noodle soup for breakfast, lunch and dinner. "

    good luck.

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