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    Okay, so I got an e-mail from the professor that is supposed to be working with me on the project this summer. He wanted me to come and meet him because he's going to be gone for the first 2 weeks of the program.
    Well, I went to meet him and I know now why his e-mails were always so vague and distant sounding. He seemed so uncomfortable talking to me... it was almost like he was afraid of me. His assistant acted the same way, very shy and avoiding eye-contact. They are both not from the US and their accents we every thick. I didn't want to make them feel uncomfortable by asking them where they were from... but I almost wonder if their culture doesn't approve of men working with women or something. I mean, he was just acting so weird and there were these long awkward pauses. Now I'm worried about the program. He said this was his first time participating in this program. I'm supposed to use this for my senior research and I don't want anything to go wrong with this. I don't know if I feel comfortable being his guinea pig. And I don't know what its going to be like working with him if he can't even talk to me. What should I do?!

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    Is there anyone else you can contact besides him to try and get some better insight? What about talking with other students that are enrolled in the program? Try and not get nervous yet.. I'm sure everything will go just fine!

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    I tried contacting to graduate studies coordinator, but she hasn't responded to my e-mails. I still have no clue where to go the first day or where an appropriate place to park might be. I just know that the campus cops are ruthless and they will tow your car if you don't have a permit. I'm supposed to be getting a permit, but I have absolutely no clue when because this person hasn't e-mailed me back yet. I am the only person in the program that is not coming from out of town. I'm the only one commuting, everyone else will be living on campus and I guess none of them will have cars with them (they are all flying in Sunday night from all over the country). I feel like I have been forgotten about or something because these people will wake up on campus the first day and someone will be leading them to where they are supposed to go. Somehow I have to drive there that morning, find somewhere to park, and figure out where the heck they are all at.

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    I would be really aggravated since we're approaching the end of the week and you still don't know about the parking situation or have a permit.. I work at a University, so I know what you mean when you say the campus cops are ruthless. They are forever towing cars. Is there a phone number to contact the graduate studies coordinator? And is there any way you could get there a little earlier and maybe meet up with the other students?

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    I've been looking for a phone number, but all I have at the moment is her e-mail. I can see if there is a phone directory on the website. It's probably too late today though. It is very frustrating because I feel like I was left out of the loop all because I'm not flying in Sunday night and having someone pick me up from the airport.
    I could go earlier, but I don't know where the other students will be. LOL!
    Hopefully I'll get an e-mail back tomorrow morning. If not, I'll see if I can find a campus directory or something so I can get someone on the phone.

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    If you don't get in touch with anyone, can Mr. BRS or someone drop you off the first day so you won't have to worry about parking?

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    Hmm... maybe. That might be a good idea.

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    So what do you think I should do about this professor guy? He's not even going to be there the first two weeks! He said he was leaving the country to bring back some exchange students to participate in the program this summer as well. It was so weird just trying to talk to this guy. Like I said, he acted like he was really uncomfortable. How am I supposed to get the most out of this program if he's acting weird like this?

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    Well, if he's going to be away for the first two weeks.. who is going to be taking over + teaching the program?

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    He said this "assistant" would be available to help me if I needed it, but he insisted the first two weeks were just orientation and lab exercises to get everyone accustomed to the lab. Everyone has their own "mentor"... mine just so happens to be leaving the country for 2 weeks.
    His assistant was just as afraid of me and the professor was, if not more so. He practically jumped out of his chair when we went into his office and then he wouldn't even shake my hand or anything. It was basically just a meek little "hi" and then we left.

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    Oh gosh.. that doesn't sound good. Can you ask for a new mentor or partner up with somebody else? I mean it's only right since yours is going to be MIA.

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    IDK, I guess I'll have to ask at the orientation when everyone is supposed to be getting introduced to their mentors. The only reason I met mine already was because he asked me to come since he'd be leaving town before that day.
    I wish I knew where he was from. He graduated from a college in Germany, but I don't believe he's German. I was thinking if I knew where he was from maybe I could learn something about his culture and maybe he wouldn't be so uncomfortable with me.

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    Ooooooooooooookay, I heard back from the graduate studies lady and she just sent out a generic e-mail to myself and another student (that apparently is also living off campus, I didn't know that there was someone else). It said that we'd be getting our permits Sunday night at the welcoming party and that we could park at a meter since they aren't running on the weekends. But I can't make it Sunday night because I have to work. They messed up my scheduling and I really didn't want to tell them it still wasn't right. LOL! So I don't know what I should do Monday morning. Maybe I should just have Mr BRS drop me off. That way I don't have to park at a parking meter and then go out to move my car half way through orientation...
    As for the mentor/professor guy acting weird, I'll ask the coordinator lady on Monday when we're supposed to be "introduced" to our mentors or whatever they are.

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    Default Re: Nervous about my research program...

    I would ask him where he is from, like in a friendly manner, like you're just really interested or something. And then, maybe you can look up his culture and see what their business etiquette is like, maybe they don't make eye contact like it's offensive or something.
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    Default Re: Nervous about my research program...

    I just read through this bRs and I would have been a little freaked out too. Glad you got that email today!! I would just have Mr. BRS drop you off and hopefully everything will go well Monday morning!!

    Good luck!!

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