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    Default Re: Anyone else get mad at parents with out-of-control kids?

    Do you know, I think this is one of the problems with society at the moment. Parents seem to be scared to control their kids. I don't condone parents 'smacking' their kids, but to be honest, when I was little I remember that as a kid you always thought twice about being naughty because you didn't want to be punished or to get a small slap on the knee or bum for being naughty. It seems now parents aren't allowed to punish their kids and kids are becoming more and more unruly! I look at how parents treat their children and it seems that they are allowing their kids to run riot. I think that maybe in school and at home kids should be punished more and taught that bad behaviour is absolutely unacceptable and should not be rewarded. Maybe then we would see a change in how kids are behaving in public.

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    All I know if that my behind would have been black and blue if I had acted like that when I was a kid. But my niece is about the same age as this kid was and she NEVER acts like that. Her mom keeps her on a "tight leash". They never use physical punishment with her, they simply put her in time out or they don't let he have something that she was wanting when the problem began occurring. I totally understand that even the best parents can't control their kids' behavior 100% of the time. But the fact that these people actually rewarded him like they did for his behavior really irks me. Don't they understand that they are just setting themselves up for many, many more episodes like this in the future? Oh, and allowing the kid to be in a position where he could hurt someone should be completely unacceptable. Like I said, my mom about got beaned in the head.

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    Default Re: Anyone else get mad at parents with out-of-control kids?

    Being a mom of 3 boys things can get pretty crazy around here sometimes. My 2 older boys acted up once in public and they were quickly taken out of the store or restaurant that we were in. They never did that again. Now when we go out, it's like a switch gets flipped and my kids are shy and reserved. My DH is one of those people that doesn't like seeing kids acting up in public. We don't take that kind of behaviour from our own children so, seeing other children acting up does get really annoying. especially if the parents do absolutely nothing to stop it.

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    Default Re: Anyone else get mad at parents with out-of-control kids?

    Quote Originally Posted by Arianne12 View Post
    I think parents who take their kids to restaurants are brave! In both a good and bad way.

    I have a two year old and everytime we go out with him anything can happen! We always expect the worst but most of the time he has pleasantly surprised us. We've never taken him to eat in a restaurant since he's been able to walk and run cause we know he'll get bored and would want to run around and it won't be fun for us or the other diners. We usually go to parks with cafes or child friendly cafes where he is allowed to play.

    OMG, we went to the zoo on his birthday and he threw a tantrum and just lay on the ground with people walking over him. I had to walk away and ignore him until he calmed down. Sometimes, even with our best efforts, kids will get out of control. They are tuned to be that way. It's how a parent manages the situation that doesn't let it get out hand.

    Yah, but see, you have a 2 year old. That's totally normal. They all do that because they are showing their independence in one way or another. We had a period of time with my son when we just didn't take him out to sit down places. It wasn't fair to him and it wasn't fair to the other patrons. When we did finally start going out again, I always armed myself with crayons, coloring books and small toys for him to play with. We also (still) don't go out for long meals with them. Again, even at 8 and 6, it isn't fair to them. We keep our meals to under an hour if at all possible.

    Parents walk a fine line between what is acceptable behavior for a two year old (which does include the daily tantrum or two) and completely giving in to that child so they will stop screaming. I was never one to give in. And yes it drove me crazy watching parents that do.

    I still have a rule that if we are in a store and you ask me for something the answer is automatically no. If you point out something and say "cool" but then let it drop, you may actually get it on the way out (if you have been perfect). My kids picked up on that quickly and are darlings in stores. And no, they don't always get something. But the idea that they may certainly works.
    I fully support bribery in some cases. Do I think that parents should give in to screaming children, absolutely not. But I believe that good behavior warrants a pat on the back or the occasional DS game when they aren't expecting it.
    And when my children want to test me as they occasionally do, I have no qualms about having them drop and give me 50 push-ups in the middle of Target. And the more they argue, the more they get. Works every time. See, I don't count in my house. that gives them 3 chances to make the right choice or to finish the behavior that had me upset in the first place. So the threat of push-ups works every time. And of course my son's baseball coach appreciates it because it buffs up his arms so much that 5 of out of 10 hits gets a home run.
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    ^^^ Obviously they weren't handling the situation very well. I mean, they did eventually let him go play the video game. Isn't that positively reinforcing negative behavior? Also, he was probably like 5 or 6, a little old to be behaving like a toddler.
    I don't see this in Texas really at all, but it was normal behavior in California. Used to drive me crazy!

    I still remember watching a child having a total tantrum in Target because he wanted a toy and a sucker and the mother saying to him, "Honey, please don't do this to mommy. Please be a good boy." Are you serious??? Where are your cohunes, lady? Who, exactly, is in control here? She finally gave him the sucker to shut him up. I was appalled.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jadore View Post
    You know what gets me frustrated about out of control kids? When they're at my store touching and playing with everything in life. They swear like it's the playground. And then, when I tell the parents for the kid to be careful cause the item can break, they look at me like I'm crazy. UGH.
    My rule from the time they could walk has always been "We look with our eyes, not with our hands". In toy stores it is a little different because they will have things out for them to play with. But when we are in a normal store they always ask if they can try on the hat or the shoes. And when they forget, I say, "What is the rule? We look with..."
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