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    Default Re: Been kinda depressed lately...

    Well... it looks like I'll be going to the hospital tonight to say good-bye to my grandma. My mom said that she isn't mad at me for "dealing with things in my own way"... meaning I haven't visited my grandma much. I'm worried about going there and my grandma's icky husband being there. I don't like him expecting me to act all "love-y" towards my grandma. It's just not something I do... heck, I hardly ever show any kind of affection to my parents. I hope I don't sound like a terrible person here... I'm really not. I just don't like being stuck in a situation like this and being expected by other people to act a certain way. Does that make sense?

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    Default Re: Been kinda depressed lately...

    Don't feel bad, a lot of people clam up emotionally when upsetting things are happening around them. I am the same way. It's uncomfortable and akward because people expect a certain reaction from you, but they just need to get over it and understand that everyone has different reactions when they are trying to cope. I happen to think our way is one of the better ones because it's beneficial to be able to handle trauma stoically instead of breaking down, it means you can keep your head clear and keep functioning. On top of that, you have reason not to be emotionally attached to your grandmother if she once disowned you!

    Don't try to force yourself to act in a way that's against your nature. I understand about not showing accection! Don't beat yourself up about it, it doesn't make us bad people.

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    Well... we went there tonight, but we didn't go in her room. My parents were waiting for us at the elevator and they said that they just found out my grandma has RSV... so she was pretty much quarantined. I was able to look at her through the glass door of the ICU and her husband was sitting in there with a mask on and stuff. They took her off of all the life support stuff... so they think she'll probably pass away soon. My parents are upset, but they understand how I feel about her and about this ridiculous situation.

    LikityKity - Thanks for saying what you did. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one out there. It's not that I completely don't care about her at all... but I don't feel the need to throw myself on her and start bawling. Sure I'm upset, but I'm more upset with my grandma's husband for letting this situation drag on for so long. He was totally up for keeping her as a vegetable in a nursing home... but a case worker came and talked to him and my parents and they made him realize that this is not what she would have wanted. It's really sad, all of the things that led up to this. I won't go into detail... but we have all come to the conclusion that her husband really is a bad man (e.g. male gold-digger).

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