I know there are a lot of Families where the Parent(s) don't want their Children to leave. To me when you have a close relationship with your Family and love being together you shouldn't have to leave home because that's what society says.
I totally agree. I think that your home will always be your home and that just because of your age you shouldn't have to leave because of societal standards. I guess for me it's different because even when I went to college my parents still paid for my apartment/groceries/bills, etc. It was the same for my friends. Their parents paid for them throughout college. I was always welcomed home for the summer, or on breaks, or whenever, and I'll be moving home for a few months before my big move to NYC. I think it depends on how close of a family you are and how parents feel about the situation.
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I don't see what the big deal is about buying a designer handbag when you're young. I'm 23 and have a few Chanel bags that are worth more than the $650 this girl was going to spend. I don't have anything to pay for, just a few bills (cable, electric, etc.), so I think it's perfectly fine to buy the things I want, no matter what the cost is (within reason of course).
I don't think that when you're 23 you should not be spending money on things you want, or saving up for a house or condo. I also disagree with the comment that you shouldn't be living with your parents at that age. It's a personal choice of where someone wants to live, and if it's with their parents then good for them. Plus, if they have a great family and they want to be with them, then maybe it's just not their time to "leave the nest."
i totally agree with you, i am single and young and want to live my life and spend money on me me me. then once i am ready to have a family all that money is going to go towards the kids. i see no problem living with parents (eventhough i dont right now) because frankly sometimes parents need their kids, whether it be for help around the house, emotional, or physical reasons...why they live with their parents is none of our business but if they are happy with their life then thats what matters
my mom always tells me to live my life now because once i have kids and a family i have to think of them first. so when i buy LV she understands, and thats the best feeling in the world
I totally agree. I think that your home will always be your home and that just because of your age you shouldn't have to leave because of societal standards. I guess for me it's different because even when I went to college my parents still paid for my apartment/groceries/bills, etc. It was the same for my friends. Their parents paid for them throughout college. I was always welcomed home for the summer, or on breaks, or whenever, and I'll be moving home for a few months before my big move to NYC. I think it depends on how close of a family you are and how parents feel about the situation.
I agree with you completely. I also am always welcomed at Home, although I'm no longer there, and would drop my life in a minute if my Family needed me.
Ladies, you are missing the point entirely. At 23 living at home is mooching off of your parents. Shame on you. Extenuating circumstances is one thing. Maybe a parent died or another one is elderly or ill, again, understandable. But for normal, run of the mill situations, at 23 you need to be living on your own and paying your own way. Haven't your parents done enough for you already? It's time to grow up, be mature and take care of yourself. If you have a great paying job and can afford to pay all of your bills, save some for a rainy day and then buy your bags, great. But for those still living at home, mooching off of your folks and then blowing your money on material things... well, if you were my child, you wouldn't be.
And fyi, of course you should be welcome home to visit. My mom lived with us for 2 years while her divorce was finalized. But again, extenuating circumstances. She helped clean the house, helped with the business, the kids, etc... She didn't "live" off of us, which is what so many young people tend to do these days. And I would certainly never do that to my parents. Much like baby birds, we need to be pushed from the nest so we can grow, mature, thrive as adults. not live at home with mommy and daddy until we are 25 or 30.
I don't think it's mooching. I think everyone's life is different, and family connection is different, and I don't think it's fair to put someone else's choices into the situation in which you currently live. You have to think about what their life is like and what their situation is. Just because you may not have lived they way did, doesn't mean that it's ok to say that they are wrong.
For example, people who can only afford to buy clothes at Goodwill may think those are the greatest clothes ever, but someone who is rich may judge them and think it's "gross." The person who is rich isn't thinking about the other people from those people's perspective, only their own, and of course it would be different. They have money and can buy from wherever they want, and Goodwill would be the last place they go, but the Goodwill family thinks it's th best store ever. Does that make sense?
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I don't think it's mooching. I think everyone's life is different, and family connection is different, and I don't think it's fair to put someone else's choices into the situation in which you currently live. You have to think about what their life is like and what their situation is. Just because you may not have lived they way did, doesn't mean that it's ok to say that they are wrong.
For example, people who can only afford to buy clothes at Goodwill may think those are the greatest clothes ever, but someone who is rich may judge them and think it's "gross." The person who is rich isn't thinking about the other people from those people's perspective, only their own, and of course it would be different. They have money and can buy from wherever they want, and Goodwill would be the last place they go, but the Goodwill family thinks it's th best store ever. Does that make sense?
It does, although one has nothing to do with the other.
Unless you are paying full rent, paying for all of your food, splitting the housecleaning and upkeep on the property, then by the age of 23 you need to be on your own, paying and forging your own way. Your parents have spent enough of thier time and expenses on raising you. It's your time now to grow and mature as an adult. Living at home stunts that growth and awareness.
And to me, that is called mooching. My mom is my best friend. My parents and I have a wonderful relationship. And because of this, I would never even perceive to still live at home by then. It isn't fair to my folks (who have already raised me emotionally, financially and spiritually) and deserve some peace and quiet and it wouldn't have been good for my growth into adulthood.
Baby birds must be pushed out of the nest at some point. College age is a good age to do just that.
And I just noticed that you are 23 and must still be living at home. Once you grow up, raise a family of your own, you'll get it. Until then, it's like talking to a wall because you don't know any different/better.
Everyone's situation is different. We are not here to bash other members about their living arrangements, we are here to talk about bags.
Let's get back on topic.
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Out of curiosity...why should we limit the talk to only bags? It's the controversial conversations like this that will bring people back and keep them logging on to see what's next. I also don't think we were bashing any members situation...it was a conversation that started over a handbag purchase...so in essence, I guess it started off on topic. In the future, I guess I won't share this sort of thing with the forum and keep it strictly bags.
I agree wholeheartedly with Maeveyblue, though. She's hit the nail right on the head and I guess it struck some nerves. LOL
No one hit my nerves, I was just trying to show how we can't judge certain people's life situations, and for everyone to see that it's not so much a big deal. I think you can totally share things of this nature with everyone, gives us something to talk about besides what we usually do :)
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Ladies, you are missing the point entirely. At 23 living at home is mooching off of your parents. Shame on you. Extenuating circumstances is one thing. Maybe a parent died or another one is elderly or ill, again, understandable. But for normal, run of the mill situations, at 23 you need to be living on your own and paying your own way. Haven't your parents done enough for you already? It's time to grow up, be mature and take care of yourself. If you have a great paying job and can afford to pay all of your bills, save some for a rainy day and then buy your bags, great. But for those still living at home, mooching off of your folks and then blowing your money on material things... well, if you were my child, you wouldn't be.
And fyi, of course you should be welcome home to visit. My mom lived with us for 2 years while her divorce was finalized. But again, extenuating circumstances. She helped clean the house, helped with the business, the kids, etc... She didn't "live" off of us, which is what so many young people tend to do these days. And I would certainly never do that to my parents. Much like baby birds, we need to be pushed from the nest so we can grow, mature, thrive as adults. not live at home with mommy and daddy until we are 25 or 30.
wow, my family would never consider it mooching....maybe its just because we are so close. and besides, if that "mooching" leaves room to afford more bags, i dont see the problem. she is young and just let her live her life, even if you consider it to be mooching, as long as she is happy with her chanel that should be what matters most
And I just noticed that you are 23 and must still be living at home. Once you grow up, raise a family of your own, you'll get it. Until then, it's like talking to a wall because you don't know any different/better.
i think thats a mean comment, you really dont know her situation unless you personally know her and her family. to put someone down like is very immature.
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