2gdfcs

Man, that's a tough situation. If you're close and you value her friendship, I don't know that I'd say anything simply becuase it may put a strain on not only your relationship with her, but also your relationship with your husband if she takes offense and says something to him.

Of course, if it gets really out of hand, maybe you could say something along the lines of how well they must be doing since you see she just bought a new such-and-such. That way, you're not saying anything directly to her about her "copying" you, but you definitely send the message that you're aware of it.

It really sucks that her husband does nothing though - that's probably why she's treating herself even though they can't afford it.