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Originally Posted by lilstrlett
I don't think it's mooching. I think everyone's life is different, and family connection is different, and I don't think it's fair to put someone else's choices into the situation in which you currently live. You have to think about what their life is like and what their situation is. Just because you may not have lived they way did, doesn't mean that it's ok to say that they are wrong.
For example, people who can only afford to buy clothes at Goodwill may think those are the greatest clothes ever, but someone who is rich may judge them and think it's "gross." The person who is rich isn't thinking about the other people from those people's perspective, only their own, and of course it would be different. They have money and can buy from wherever they want, and Goodwill would be the last place they go, but the Goodwill family thinks it's th best store ever. Does that make sense?
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It does, although one has nothing to do with the other.
Unless you are paying full rent, paying for all of your food, splitting the housecleaning and upkeep on the property, then by the age of 23 you need to be on your own, paying and forging your own way. Your parents have spent enough of thier time and expenses on raising you. It's your time now to grow and mature as an adult. Living at home stunts that growth and awareness.
And to me, that is called mooching. My mom is my best friend. My parents and I have a wonderful relationship. And because of this, I would never even perceive to still live at home by then. It isn't fair to my folks (who have already raised me emotionally, financially and spiritually) and deserve some peace and quiet and it wouldn't have been good for my growth into adulthood.
Baby birds must be pushed out of the nest at some point. College age is a good age to do just that.
And I just noticed that you are 23 and must still be living at home. Once you grow up, raise a family of your own, you'll get it. Until then, it's like talking to a wall because you don't know any different/better.
