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purse-aholic* · March 30th, 2007, 08:41 PM

so this is a update on how things are going with the bf. after thinking about the pros and cons i decided that my feelings for him are too strong to throw away. i love and care about him too much to end our relationship. we both sat down and had a long talk. i talked about issues i have and he mentioned problems he had with me (there actually werent alot of issues he had with me). as for the whole weight thing, he told me that yes he does want me to trim down but not just for physical attraction. he says that by having me live healthier will help him do the same. he wants me to get to a weight where i feel comfortable at so i feel better about myself because he knows how insecure i am. and i flat out told him that i will not have a perfect body like a Victoria's Secret model. his answer was that it doesnt matter to him and he would still be happy with me. basically, he just wants me or "us" to lose weight because we have both gained weight since we met each other.
and as for the time he said "do you think im attracted to all of this fat?", we cleared that up as well. he said that because he was really fed up with me complaining about my weight all of the time and he just got so angry. but the important thing is that he realized what he said was wrong and that he sincerely felt bad about it. i also told him that what he did on myspace kinda hurt my feelings. he said that even though it was fun and games for him he would change his profile, which he was doing before i left for work so i can read it tomorrow.
right now i must say that i am very happy with my bf. i mean, things are never perfect in any relationship and i will admit that some aspects of our relationship arent healthy, but we are working on it. i guess i look at it this way: we use to fight all of the time, but we are still together and improving ourselves. doesnt that mean something??? i think it means that we really love each other for us to endure all of the crap that we have throughout our relationship. i think that things happen for a reason and i look at this experience as a step forward towards happiness.

thank you all for your support and thank you for listening. you all gave me advice that i could not have gotten anywhere else.

March 30th, 2007, 08:41 PM	#24 (permalink)
purse-aholic* Rising Bag Star Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: CT Posts: 131	Re: Boyfriend Advice so this is a update on how things are going with the bf. after thinking about the pros and cons i decided that my feelings for him are too strong to throw away. i love and care about him too much to end our relationship. we both sat down and had a long talk. i talked about issues i have and he mentioned problems he had with me (there actually werent alot of issues he had with me). as for the whole weight thing, he told me that yes he does want me to trim down but not just for physical attraction. he says that by having me live healthier will help him do the same. he wants me to get to a weight where i feel comfortable at so i feel better about myself because he knows how insecure i am. and i flat out told him that i will not have a perfect body like a Victoria's Secret model. his answer was that it doesnt matter to him and he would still be happy with me. basically, he just wants me or "us" to lose weight because we have both gained weight since we met each other. and as for the time he said "do you think im attracted to all of this fat?", we cleared that up as well. he said that because he was really fed up with me complaining about my weight all of the time and he just got so angry. but the important thing is that he realized what he said was wrong and that he sincerely felt bad about it. i also told him that what he did on myspace kinda hurt my feelings. he said that even though it was fun and games for him he would change his profile, which he was doing before i left for work so i can read it tomorrow. right now i must say that i am very happy with my bf. i mean, things are never perfect in any relationship and i will admit that some aspects of our relationship arent healthy, but we are working on it. i guess i look at it this way: we use to fight all of the time, but we are still together and improving ourselves. doesnt that mean something??? i think it means that we really love each other for us to endure all of the crap that we have throughout our relationship. i think that things happen for a reason and i look at this experience as a step forward towards happiness. thank you all for your support and thank you for listening. you all gave me advice that i could not have gotten anywhere else.